Our brains are quite good at assuming the worst outcomes. In fact, it’s an ancient evolutionary instinct directly tied to our survival as a species. If we prepare for the worst, we’re less likely to suffer.
However, since we are no longer fighting giant saber-tooth tigers on a regular basis, the instinct has had poor transfer in our modern times. We often assume the worst about the future, about the past, and most importantly about each other. This is a mindset problem.
Assuming the worst about the future leads to symptoms of increased anxiety. Our breath is shorter, our heart rate is higher, and that little voice in our mind tells us all of the things to worry about.
Assuming the worst about the past leads to symptoms of increased depression. We feel sad, we feel tired, and that little voice in our mind tells us about how it all should’ve gone better back then.
Assuming the worst about each other leads to distrust and division. We feel like others are out to get us, we feel like those we can rely on are very few, and that little voice in our mind tells us we are facing this life alone.
It is essential that we confront this negative mindset with practices that lend to a more positive mindset. One such practice is actively making the choice to assume the best. Assuming the best about the future, about the past, and about each other is not only closer to the real truth of most situations, but also gives us the chance to feel better day to day.
Assuming the best doesn’t mean we don’t plan ahead; rather, it means we plan ahead with hope and determination. Assuming the best doesn’t mean we don’t reflect on how we can improve; rather, it means we reflect with grace and action steps. Assuming the best doesn’t mean we don’t hold each other accountable; rather, it means we collaborate and work together for a common good.
Thankfully, if you’ve found yourself in a rut of assuming the worst, you are not alone. The Willow Center is here to help, and we will come alongside of you to develop a more positive and healthy mindset.
Written by Chase Cotten, Community Director
Reviewed by Ashley English, LAC
